If things went south, and got really bad between them, it could make things uncomfortable, but as a brother, I want my sister to be as happy as possible. So remember to listen to his advice and thank him for it. It's your life; who am I to tell you how to live it? I don't want her to find out he's drinking and then be mad at me for not telling her. She's met him once or twice in the couple years we've been friends but last weekend we all went camping and they got to talk and have one of those nights. I would definitely talk to your brother first. However, I think Wendy is being too harsh.
I'm straight, and my best friend of 12 years came out about a year ago. I'm not saying your friendship is guaranteed to crash and burn, but if things don't work out with the sibling, it could make your friendship awkward. It definitely hits awkward territory but it gets easier I swear, I've been dating one of my brother's closest friends for about a year now and I actually live with my brother, so the awkward phase was extra awkward. They closed the door, and I stood in disbelief. I feel so happy I want to cry.
But your bestfriend made a conscious decision in deciding to date your brother, and she should be held just as accountable for the deterioration of your friendship. It's a widely known fact that people all over the world fantasize about their friends' hot siblings and vice versa. Make sure you talk to your bestie first to see how they feel about the possibility of you two dating. I feel like I need to see where this could potentially go, but I'm also aware that my brother may not be ok with it. One of this to that her that love sex and relationship. Who wants to picture their sibling getting busy with anyone, let alone with your best friend? But hey, what's the fun in that? Long ago my brother dated my old bestie. Everyone will wonder where it's going and what happens if it ends badly.
Given the sensitivity of this topic, I never discuss it with her. Granted, we were wasted when the conversation happened, so it was a little blurry, but we both know she approved before we did the deed. Finding a great guy to date nowadays seems impossible for some women, so when she finds what seems like the perfect guy, she should go for it, right? If any of this is true, then how can you blame her for wanting to protect her privacy by keeping this relationship from you? My brother is married and just bought a new house. The people involved in my particularly situation no longer speak to each other so I often feel like it's my fault their friendship was ruined. But after getting married, having a son, and then getting divorced my ex is a wonderful father who has custody of our son , I fell for a musician. Maybe they felt awkward telling her? Even if she was being judgmental, to hide it from her for a year is ridiculous. For whatever reason, you see them and what they share together as some sort of extension of your relationships with each of them, and this extension has given you the idea that you have a say in what happens between them.
This is a self-moderating sub. Like Wendy said… is she maybe judgemental? I love them both and I want them to be happy but since they started dating I can't help but feel a little weird. I can understand that she felt weird but it was way stranger when she refused to discuss it with me or even acknowledge that it happened. Should this relationship continue or go down in flames is really none of your business at this point. You are his best bud of 12 years, your brother is a guy he's been dating for a month at 18 years old.
You state in your letter how you care for them both. I feel really guilty withholding things from her. Frame this in a context of being happy for them but having some worries about how you feel. If two people you loved and trusted did something like this, you might be perturbed too. I even use it when talking to my stepkids. If things get sexual, you may have to tell him that yes, there is a little more than just kissing, but it is not his business. You need to talk to your brother and establish rules about this sort of thing in the future.
She put on Netflix for me and closed the door. The two of you haven't to date. At least you got some fun out of it and kept your best friend, though, am I right? No situation is too uncomfortable or too small and all details are kept confidential. The day after that, the two of us spent most of the day together while my brother and his wife hung out at home. Problem and eventually started dating advice column that's short on bullshit, i have been a friend's sister, but more and classmate from elementary. I would ask your brother first.
Also let him know that you are hurt that he would hide something from you like this, especially since it involved your friend. Please use reddit's voting system to your advantage. A girlfriend of mine found herself in this predicament. Leave her alone, and let them come to you if they decide to. This particular scenario may only apply to my dumb ass, but take a note from my book and avoid a sleepover if your friend isn't even around. While I was there, I had this crazy connection with my brother's friend. Writing about how you feel could be a useful outlet, remembering these very strong feelings may subside as you get used to the situation.